Adoption Issues

tangled hearts

Being a member of the adoption circle (birth parents, adoptive parents and persons adopted into their families) can bring some unique life challenges. For many individuals, these challenges are compelling. Adoption-related issues tend to arise and recede at several predictable points in both the individual and the family life cycle.

I have been a part of the adoption circle in various personal ways, and worked as an adoption professional for 11 years before going to graduate school to become a therapist. The picture on this page is a pendant the artist called Tangled Hearts. The ribbons connecting three hearts represent the not always straightforward feelings between members of the adoption circle.

I can come alongside as you process what has happened in the past and find meaning and wholeness in the present. If you are considering meeting a birth family member for the first time, I can help you prepare emotionally and be thoughtful and intentional in your plans.

Counseling can help if you:

  • are parenting a child who is sad and/or angry about loss of the birth family
  • are an adoptive parent who finds it difficult to literally or psychologically share the child with the birth family
  • are in the life phase of “launching” your adopted teen
  • are considering beginning a search for or reunion with a birth parent
  • are a birth parent with unresolved grief issues
  • are in the midst of an unplanned pregnancy and are deciding whether to parent or to make an adoption plan for the child
  • are an adopted person of any age who wants more clarity on any of the core issues of adoption

Jean Vanlue, MA, LPC, LMFT


528 Cottage St. NE,
Suite 300,
Salem, OR 97301